There is a fundamental difference between the questions of “Why is this happening?” and “Why is this happening to me?”. The existential aspect of the first is the second. John Stonestreet relates a story of a girl who asked him “Why does God let bad things happen?” He answers using standard apologetics, but she doesn’t feel helped. Then he realizes that the real question she was asking was, “Why did God let that happen to me?”(1)
I also heard Sean McDonald tell a similar story (I think it was at Winter Xtreme in Gatlinburg, TN back in 2013-14). Right out of seminary he and some friends started talking to a line of people waiting to buy tickets. After hammering arguments in favor of God’s existence, one lady started crying. Sean realized that he hadn’t shown love to the woman.
I believe that all questions require a degree of existential attention. The one who asks another must ask him or her self the same questions. There is a gap between reason and love; it is filled with a void I do not understand. But I do know that the existential reaches towards objectivity in that void. Might the void be the subjective? Is the existential transcendental?
(1) Stonestreet, John. “Why Students Walk Away,” Summit Journal (Summer 2016 Vol. 16 Issue 2), p. 2, 6-8